Getting Grilled at Lunch

One of the worst interviews I can remember involved a brief in-office interview followed by a short walk to a restaurant for lunch and the  completion of the interview. I knew they were interested in my social skills and if my strengths would stand up in a more casual setting. Luckily I was well coached and had generally good social etiquette which allowed me to make it through the lunch. Even so it was not a meal I care to repeat. The best advice is to not forget - the interview is still happening. Don't forget they are watching you closely. On the other hand don't dwell on that fact.

While getting, or not getting, an offer based on how polite you were to the waitress hardly seems smart. Keep in mind employers need to know, among other things, how you will represent them away from the office. Furthermore, a more relaxed atmosphere normally allows more in-depth and frank discussions. This is one clear way of looking at you beyond the resume. Make no mistake, it's not lunch...you are being inspected.

Best Advice; obviously, be sure to mind your manners. Don't order alcohol. Don't order the most expensive food on the menu. When ordering, think about the mess factor. Some pasta dishes, or soups for instance, can be a challenge to eat. Don't talk with your mouth full. Know which silverware to use with which food. Take cues from the person who is interviewing you—if in doubt, watch how that person does things and copy. Put your napkin in your lap.

Other experts advise eating light so you will finish first and be able to field questions without having to eat. If it is an evening meal and cocktails are being served. The rules are more forgiving but do stop at one. 

Remember that lunch interviews are conversations, like any other. You don't want to put too much pressure on yourself. Finish chewing, if asked a question. Take your time, in general. As much as possible, relax.